okay ladies. i have to vent here for just a second and please don't feel any pressure to respond only if you want to. i just had no where else to turn as my lesbian supports are very limited.
i'm just alone and trying to cope with that. i'm trying to find new places to go to meet new people...not necessarily for romance or relationship purposes initially, just for connections and maybe companionship. i know that it is much more difficult for lesbians to meet women versus heterosexuals who seem to have a much broader network of people and places to choose from.
i just had to communicate these feelings in a safe place and i appreciate this tribe being here for that type of support.
peace.
i'm just alone and trying to cope with that. i'm trying to find new places to go to meet new people...not necessarily for romance or relationship purposes initially, just for connections and maybe companionship. i know that it is much more difficult for lesbians to meet women versus heterosexuals who seem to have a much broader network of people and places to choose from.
i just had to communicate these feelings in a safe place and i appreciate this tribe being here for that type of support.
peace.
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Re: loneliness
Tue, August 8, 2006 - 12:57 PMkate i know how you feel i get lonely alot but i been trying to get out more now try local coffe shops night clubs or join a group that you might be interested in i'm doing that right now ...seems to be interesting place to meet some people...to bad your far away i would love to hang out with you .....write me some time long time no hear -
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Re: loneliness
Sat, September 2, 2006 - 1:26 PMI always thought the usa was the easiest place for lesbians..ok besides holland.
I mean, I moved from holland to israel and now I really feel like its hard to break through here. Don;t misunderstand me here, I love israel and I came to do the army. I feel I have to do that since I'm born here. But meeting lesbians ain't easy.
yet you go on, I hope to live in the usa one day..after the army..
Shalom.
Inbar
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Re: loneliness
Wed, September 20, 2006 - 10:46 PMI have a feeling we are lonely all over the world. For whatever reason it is very difficult to meet genuine, quality, lesbians. There are groups, but i'm not always available to attend their events.
Someday the lonliness will end.
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Re: loneliness
Thu, November 16, 2006 - 10:31 PMi am glad to find this tribe. i am dealing with issues of a lack of lesbians in the place where i find myself living. "genuine quality lesbians" i can relate to that. There is this woman here who is sometimes literally chasing some straight girl that she had some drunken happenstance with while the girl yells, "no, i don't want to be with you, i am not gay!) There is something in that that makes me very much want to stay away. But it is the despiration of being such a minority in some places.
i was told about an email list for my area, i eagerly joined only to find that all of the events are 2-5 towns over and as a working college student, it isn't very feasable.
There is also a facinating lack of lesbian cetered focus places i would expect it, like here on tribe, i have looked a couple times before finding this one. Also i have always wondered why there is no lesbian village or whatever at burningman, surprises me every year, but i do not have the resources to create it. -
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Re: loneliness
Fri, November 24, 2006 - 10:20 PMi've actually heard about the lesbian camp. it's kind of a hodgepodge of people...what part of BM isn't? but i'll ask my friend again and find out for sure. i know THEY have all told me to get my ass there. As i don't do girls with the "this is my first time...but i really like you!" "i've never liked a girl before.." or "well my ex-boyfriend.." bleck.
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Re: loneliness
Wed, November 29, 2006 - 1:29 PMYeah let me know if you can get a name for iit. But i am surprised there arent like, many. really it just seems like there would be at the burn, there are definatly identifiable pretty much all gayish men camps.
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Re: loneliness
Fri, September 22, 2006 - 8:10 AMI know how you feel Kate, it's hard sometimes.
I'm out, my partner is out (mostly), but we have a small child. So even though we are out we aren't because it's not safe with our daughter. It causes me endless amounts of stress, because even though I'm pretty sure our neighbors have figured out the score and the landlord definately knows, no one talks about it so it's all very "cloak and dagger". I know you probably know, and you know I probably know, but none of us "know".
I hate it.
But at least we can all get together for support here.
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Re: loneliness
Fri, December 1, 2006 - 8:03 PMLoneliness
I think this time of year really brings out these feelings more so.
I live in San Francisco, you woud think it would be easy to meet women.
For me I am trying to figure out were I fit in. I don't really like to be label, it drives me nuts. People always like to put me in the butch box, I may look a certian way, but I get tired of people just assuming.
When I was 18 and just moving to S.F. I was like a kid in a candy shop, but back then there was more of a womens seen here(places to go). Now that I am getting older, I don't want to hang out at the Lexington . I have more fun going to straight bars these days, if I go to bars at all. I also have other interest now.
I also don't feel like I fit in when I meet other women my age. Maybe its because I don't look my age?
Who knows? I have even tryed to chat on a lesbian chat line, but I get bored or frustated(spelling?) with the topics. I have more fun talkng to the 20 year olds on the chat line (but I don't think I am into dating them),even with them, after a while I get bored It use to be that when I dated people it was just becuase I thought they were cute, now I have to have inteligent (sorry spelling, long day) conversations, or things in common with them. I would like to meet women to hangout with, not just to date. But when I have tryed to chat with women, many assume I am looking to hook up. Usually these days I am pertty up front when I meet women, I wil say If I want to date or just hangout as friends.
Sorry I need to stop my ranting.
I agree with the woman who said it happens everywhere, but how do we change this??
Thanks for putting this out there.
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Re: loneliness
Mon, January 29, 2007 - 3:54 AMI'll take some ideas too. The bigest problem I have (I think) is that I don't get out often enough. Even when I do get out it gets hard to meet anyone because even a friendly gesture is seen as hitting on someone. I've tried joining political or activity groups, but working nights makes it hard to meet up with folks. I guess I'm just stuck for a bit. I am at least taking Super Bowl Sunday off and going out to one of the local bars (Novak's) and try brushing up on some social skills. -
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Re: loneliness
Wed, February 7, 2007 - 5:28 PMWell being subjected to philosophy for most of my life I look upon things pretty philosophically. There is a saying that if we make Krishna our husband He will never leave us, if we make Him our son He will stay that way forever. Why am I mentioning this? I know most people don't believe Krishna is God. The point is that all these relationships in the material world are temporary.
There seem to be more people who are lesbians when they are younger to me. At least they are the ones I see in the bars. Maybe it's just that the older ones don't drink as much or just get tired of it all. And older couples tend to stay together longer too.
For those of you out there who know about Krishna ( www.krishna.com ) and His eternal girlfriends the gopis then you know that it is possible for a "devotee" of Krishna to remain eternally a beautiful young gopi or cowherd girl, sometimes called Goddesses of Fortune. I truly believe in my heart that we all can become maidservants of the gopis and that being a maidservant of the gopis is a position filled with so much love and happiness that nothing else can compare with it. Only in this way can we expect to be happy at all, and what to speak of eternally. My heart goes out to anyone who hasn't heard of Radharani, She has the most tender loving pastimes with Her gopi friends. Her transcendental body manifests many different kinds of ecstatic symptoms. -
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Re: loneliness
Sun, March 11, 2007 - 4:48 AMmutual i just got to the gay capital of the world but its hard to find a genuine lesbian in nyc to connect with. I'm lonely too but you have keep trying
namaste
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